We Get It
Because We’ve Been There, Too.
At Balanced Breath Psychotherapy, supporting mothers isn’t just something we do professionally.
Motherhood is something we know personally, too.
We understand that you can be incredibly grateful for your children and still feel overwhelmed. You can love being a mom and miss who you were before motherhood. You can desperately want a baby and still struggle through pregnancy. You can adore the family you’ve created while wondering how you’re possibly going to hold everything together.
We know what it’s like when motherhood looks different behind closed doors than it does in the pictures.
That’s why you won’t find judgment, expectations, or pressure to be the “perfect mom” here. You’ll find therapists who understand that motherhood can be beautiful, messy, exhausting, joyful, lonely, and complicated—sometimes all in the same day.
You don’t have to explain why something that means so much to you can also feel so hard. We get it. We’ve been there, too.
And when you sit down with us, you’re not just talking to someone who understands the clinical side of maternal mental health. You’re talking to someone who understands the human side, too.
Maybe You’re Here Because…
You wanted this baby more than anything, but pregnancy doesn't feel the way you expected.
You're constantly worried something bad will happen.
Everyone asks about the baby, but no one seems to ask how you are doing.
You love your children but sometimes desperately miss your old life.
You're touched out, overstimulated, exhausted, or resentful—and then feel guilty about it.
Your relationship feels completely different since becoming parents.
You don't recognize yourself anymore.
You're trying to conceive and your entire life feels like it's organized around appointments, tests, waiting, and disappointment.
You're pregnant again and wondering how you'll possibly have enough of yourself to give to another child.
If any of this sounds familiar, you belong here.
“But I Should Be Happy.”
There are a lot of shoulds attached to motherhood.
I should be grateful.
I should enjoy this.
I should be able to handle this.
Other moms have it harder.
I wanted this.
Maybe we make a little less room for “should” and a little more room for what’s actually true.
You can be grateful and overwhelmed.
You can love your baby and miss your old life.
You can want another child and hate being pregnant.
You can need a break from the people you love most.
You can have the family you dreamed about and struggle with motherhood.
You can be a wonderful mother and need help.
Two things can be true at the same time.
What we help with
| Pregnancy anxiety •| Postpartum anxiety | Postpartum depression | Birth trauma •| Infertility •| Pregnancy loss | Intrusive thoughts |• Mom guilt | Identity changes |• Relationship changes | Parenting overwhelm |• Returning to work |• Traumatic birth experiences •| Transitioning from one child to two or more
You weren’t meant to do all of this alone.
Motherhood asks so much of you.
Therapy can be one place where you don't have to take care of anyone else,
have the answers, or hold everything together.
Come exactly as you are.
Frequently Asked Questions
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It can be hard to tell—especially when you're caring for a new baby and exhaustion has become your new normal.
Some emotional ups and downs are expected after having a baby. But if you're experiencing persistent sadness, anxiety, irritability, guilt, hopelessness, feeling disconnected from yourself or your baby, or simply feeling like something isn't right, it's worth talking about.
You don't need to know whether what you're experiencing "counts" as postpartum depression before reaching out. You don't need a diagnosis to deserve support. We can help you make sense of what you're feeling and figure out what you need.
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Absolutely. We understand that finding childcare can sometimes feel like another impossible task on an already very long to-do list.
Depending on your therapist and appointment type, your baby may be able to join you. Feeding, rocking, diaper changes, crying, and interruptions are part of life with a baby—you don't need to apologize for them.
Come as you are. Baby and all.
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There isn't a required waiting period. You can reach out whenever you feel ready—whether that's during pregnancy, days or weeks after giving birth, several months postpartum, or much later.
You can also begin therapy during pregnancy to establish support before your baby arrives, especially if you've experienced anxiety, depression, infertility, pregnancy loss, birth trauma, or previous postpartum mental health concerns.
And "postpartum" doesn't magically end at six weeks.
If you're struggling with the transition to motherhood, you haven't missed your window to ask for help.
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Yes. You don't have to be pregnant or already have children to receive perinatal mental health support.
Trying to conceive can bring a unique kind of emotional exhaustion—the waiting, testing, appointments, uncertainty, disappointment, pregnancy announcements, and feeling like everyone around you is moving forward while you're standing still.
Therapy can give you a place to process those emotions without being told to "just relax," "stay positive," or stop thinking about it.
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Yes. Intrusive thoughts can be incredibly frightening, particularly when they involve something happening to your baby.
Intrusive thoughts are unwanted thoughts, images, or impulses that can seemingly appear out of nowhere. Having a disturbing thought does not automatically mean you want it to happen or that you will act on it. In fact, people experiencing intrusive thoughts are often deeply distressed by them.
Because intrusive thoughts can occur alongside postpartum anxiety, OCD, depression, trauma, and other conditions, it's important to talk openly with a qualified mental health professional about what you're experiencing.
You don't have to hide the scary thoughts because you're afraid of being judged.
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You're allowed to say that here.
Loving your child and struggling with motherhood are not mutually exclusive. You can be grateful for your family while grieving parts of your old life. You can adore your baby and desperately want a break. You can have moments of joy alongside resentment, boredom, loneliness, anger, or exhaustion.
Two things can be true at the same time.
Therapy isn't a place where you need to convince us how much you love your children. It's a place where you can talk about the complicated parts, too.
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You don't need to have everything figured out before contacting us.
We'll learn a little about what you're looking for, what you're currently experiencing, your availability, and any insurance or scheduling needs. From there, we'll help connect you with a therapist who may be a good fit.
And you don't need to write the perfect explanation of what's wrong.
"I'm struggling and I think I need someone to talk to" is more than enough.
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If you're wondering whether you're struggling "enough" to deserve therapy, that's often reason enough to have a conversation.
You don't need to wait until you're falling apart.
Maybe you don't feel like yourself. Maybe motherhood feels harder than you expected. Maybe anxiety is taking up too much space. Maybe you're exhausted from pretending you're okay. Or maybe you simply want a place that's yours.
Whatever brought you here, you don't have to figure it out alone.
Ready to talk? Let's find the right therapist for you.
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Yes.
A birth can have a positive medical outcome and still have been emotionally traumatic for you.
You may have felt frightened, powerless, unheard, out of control, physically overwhelmed, or convinced that you or your baby were in danger. Sometimes people minimize their experience because they're told, "At least you and the baby are healthy."
You can be grateful that your baby is okay and acknowledge that what happened to you was difficult or traumatic.
Therapy can give you space to process the experience rather than feeling like you should simply be over it.
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Yes—and mom guilt can show up around almost everything.
Working. Not working. Breastfeeding. Formula feeding. Wanting time alone. Not enjoying every moment. Losing your patience. Screen time. Daycare. Having another baby. Not having another baby. Feeling like everyone else somehow has motherhood figured out.
Therapy can help you examine the expectations you're carrying, understand where they came from, and develop a more compassionate and realistic way of relating to yourself as a parent.
The goal isn't perfect parenting. It's being a human being while raising other human beings.
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You absolutely don't have to wait until after your baby arrives.
Pregnancy can bring anxiety, depression, body changes, relationship changes, fears about birth, uncertainty about becoming a parent, or resurfacing memories from previous experiences.
For people who have experienced infertility or pregnancy loss, pregnancy can also feel very different from the carefree experience they imagined. Getting pregnant doesn't necessarily make the fear disappear.
Therapy during pregnancy can provide support now while also helping you prepare emotionally for postpartum life.
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Perinatal mental health support isn't only for first-time parents.
Every pregnancy, birth, baby, and postpartum experience can be different. Adding another child can bring new challenges around identity, sibling relationships, divided attention, guilt, sleep, relationships, and the feeling that there simply isn't enough of you to go around.
Sometimes people are surprised when they struggle after a later pregnancy because they think, "I've done this before. Why is this so hard?"
You haven't failed because this transition feels different.
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This is something we hear from many people during pregnancy and motherhood.
Becoming a parent can change your routines, relationships, body, priorities, and the amount of time and energy you have for yourself. Somewhere between taking care of everyone else and managing the endless mental load, you may start wondering, “Where did I go?”
Therapy can help you reconnect with the parts of yourself that feel lost while also making space for the person you're becoming.
You don't have to choose between being a good mother and being you. The goal isn't necessarily to get back to the person you were before motherhood—it's to discover who you are now.
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Yes.
Pregnancy loss can involve profound grief, regardless of when the loss occurred or how other people understood it.
You may be grieving the pregnancy itself, the future you imagined, milestones you expected to experience, or the sense of safety you once had around pregnancy.
There is no required timeline for grieving and no point at which your loss becomes "too old" to talk about. Therapy can provide space for your grief without requiring you to minimize it, move on, or find a silver lining.
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Yes. Virtual therapy can make accessing support significantly easier during pregnancy and postpartum, particularly when leaving the house with a baby feels like an event in itself.
You can meet with your therapist from a private space where you feel comfortable without adding commuting and another transition to your day.
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Balanced Breath Psychotherapy works with several insurance plans, although coverage can vary by therapist.
We can help you determine which of our therapists may be a good fit based on your needs, availability, and insurance coverage.
Contact us to learn more about your specific plan and therapist options.